Welcome to Fantabulously ADHD, the podcast. I'm your host Saundra Brodkin. And I teach you how to embrace all of your ADHD to create a thriving life without getting stuck in analysis paralysis, overwhelm, and emotional hangovers. Living a full and beautiful life with ADHD is possible. Listen on to learn how.
All right, I'm very excited and inspired about today's episode because ADHD mastery is something that I know I have achieved, I feel it deep within my soul, my being, my bones, my muscles, my every piece of me, I feel that I've mastered my ADHD, yet, I still have some really hard bad days and moments and tough challenges with executive function. And despite all of that, or rather, in spite all of that, I still know that I've mastered my ADHD. And I want to share with you what that means and what it looks like so that you too can understand how to get there. And if that's a place that you are ready to go.
So what does it truly mean? What I'm gonna go through in this podcast is five things that nobody tells you about mastering your ADHD. The first thing is to own it. Yes, it is part of your identity. ADHD is part of what identifies who you are, it defines parts of you. And you also get to decide how that definition looks. I know it sounds a little weird. And some people don't like the idea of saying,ADHD defines them. But when you do, you own that part of you, you own who you are. And you can be proud of your ADHD in spite of everything that it's challenged you with. So in spite of the trauma that it's caused throughout your life, the shame that you feel based on the things that maybe you can't do like a neurotypical, but the things that you also do better as someone with ADHD, and the guilt that you carry for everything that's gone on throughout your life that you wish could have gone differently. Owning all of those pieces of you is the foundational piece, or part, of mastering your ADHD. Because all of the trauma, shame and guilt root back to societal expectations that were and are far beyond your control, forcing you to fit into this linear or neurotypical kind of mold that really and truly doesn't fit you or me or anyone. It's kind of like those shape sorting games for babies. And you see babies as they're learning their shapes, try to take, let's say, the circle and fit it into the square or the triangle and fit it into the circle. And none of them actually fit. Because nothing is bendable, expandable, nothing's flexible. And you're like a flexible circle, square, triangle, any shape in the world. And societal expectations are that square, you will never match up to societal expectations. And societal expectations will never match up to you. You need your own mold, one that is flexible, bendable and expandable. So you can own who you are with deep pride, you can own it.
Number two, work it. Work the ownership of your ADHD, put your ownership in to action, you own it. So possess that ownership. It's kind of like being a parent. Now, if you're not a parent in here, think of something that you are responsible for. Maybe it's a plant, maybe it's your pet, maybe it's a younger sibling, or if you work in a place where you're in client services, it's your client. For the purpose of this, I'm gonna say, let's say it's like being a parent, there is a sense of unconditional love and responsibility for your child. You birthed this human into the world. Or you brought this human by some other capacity into the world, with an agreeance to yourself and them that you would unconditionally care for them and maintain that responsibility with love. Give yourself your brain, your body and your nervous system, the same love and unconditional responsibility that you would give to your child. Care for yourself, nourish yourself. Allow yourself to work your strengths and to work through your challenges. Because once you do when to give yourself that permission to own it and work it, you can go on to the next piece of these five steps.
So number three is you are sacred. Again, like parenting, it's sacred, the same sanctity of parenting ownership. So owning your parenthood applies to you owning who you are, you are a sacred being. Treat yourself as sacred as the highest being in your life, the highest piece of anything that you've ever worked on, you matter the most in this world when it comes to you. So nurture the intimate connection with yourself. So you can move through your life with that sacred relationship at the very forefront.
The next piece, number four is to tune in, tune into your self awareness, stretch beyond noticing, tune in Listen, engage, question that awareness, get curious about the things you notice. Now, as ADHDers, our attention is in many places at the same time, we might actually notice something like a bodily ache, that's self awareness. And then before we even realize it, our brain is off to grab something else, our attention has been diverted. Because something else more interesting or that is louder, or whatever it is, it grabbed our attention. So even though we might still feel the bodily ache or the pain, we're now aware and tuning into something completely different. Tuning into your self awareness means that when you feel anything, an ache, a pain, something wonderful, something beautiful, a great feeling, you intentionally, then turn your attention to that space of your being and experience. Number five, expand and meet. expanding into your self awareness means expanding into the happiness, the pain, the discomfort, the amazingness, the challenges, all of the things, allowing yourself to expand into every piece of your presence. And when I say expand, I picture a person who is experiencing, let's say, happiness, to explore all of that happiness, rather than stay in that moment for a few minutes, or for the duration of the happy situation, but actually to expand within it to let themselves fully immerse in that experience. To ask about it, why is it happening to learn about what took place to make you feel that way? This is where you begin to finally meet yourself, you begin to connect with the previous version of you that is really ever so present and desperately wants to take their mask off, or their many masks. Because for so long, you have been masking what you feel you have been masking and not allowing yourself to expand into your experiences. So meet yourself and experience the jaw dropping mastery of I have my own back. Always. That right there is ADHD mastery, always being present and available for yourself having your own back. So picture, your best friend. And something is happening to them whether it's good or it's bad, or it's somewhere in the middle. And they need support. And you're there for them because you want to be there for them. Be there for yourself the same way you would be for your very best friend, or for your child or for your partner or for your parent or for anyone in your life, a colleague, someone who you really have in high regard. Mastery will allow you to live your life in the present moment, while also moving forward. And doing it all with this personally sacred purpose and really specific intention. These are the five steps, the five pieces, the five things that nobody really talks about when it comes to ADHD mastery. When you hear about ADHD mastery, a lot of it stems back to executive function. And yes, that is involved. Absolutely. It's super important. However, to master your executive function, you first have to master you. You need to know yourself you need to meet yourself you need to take your masks off and expand into your very being to all of it.
The amazing pieces, the challenging pieces, the hard, The Good, the Bad, the Ugly, every single piece of you needs to be expanded into. Alright, so if you're ready for your personal ADHD mastery Journey To begin, then I have a program that will almost literally blow your socks off. And until October 31, in honor of ADHD Awareness Month, the year 2022, you can join this program Fantabulously ADHD at a monthly membership price, as opposed to the lifetime price. So all of that information is in the show notes below. You can click on the link to go to the site, read more about it, find out if it's right for you. Which, if you're listening to this episode, I think it is, actually not I think, I know it is. Because if you're already at the end of this episode, I know you want the help. I know you want the support. I know you want the community and people who understand what you're going through. Because as amazing as ADHD can be, it can also be challenging because of the world that we live in. So remember, there is a special offer during the month of October 2022 In honor of ADHD Awareness Month. If you want to snag that go ahead, because the program will be closed as of October 31 and reopen likely in the year 2023. All right, thank you so much for listening. And I will see you hear you all of that fun stuff in the next episode. If you enjoyed that and you're looking for more, make sure you check out my additional resources at Saundra brodkin.com/freestuff, you'll find a fully done for you and customizable daily planner that you can use as is or completely make it your own without all of the hard executive function steps. It's been known to take people from spending endless amounts of time and money on planners to finally finding something that works for them. And hey, you can print it at home, so ADHD tax averted. It's also linked for you in the show notes